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Dear How to Do It,
My husband just came out as gay. It’s been shocking, but I’m even more shocked by what he wants to execute about it.
He says wants us to remain married until our youngest minor leaves for college. In the meantime, he says we are both free to pursue partners of our choosing. While I am of course deeply saddened at the loss of my husband as a idealistic partner, I love him enough to want him to be free to be himself, even if that means not being with me in that regard. However, our youngest kid is I don’t verb to wait nearly a decade before we can officially move on. What if one or both of us were to see someone and want to get married to them? How can I get my husband to see what he is suggesting is not a realistic approach?
—Starting Over
Dear Starting Over,
Maybe the way to look at this is you think about “remain married” as having an asterisk next to it. That’s
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Her situation really made me stop and think. I wondered if she was feeling the same emotions these other women verb. Are the feelings of hurt, betrayal, hopelessness, hesitate, anger, bitterness, devastation, and sadness the same? Yes and no? Are they similar but different?
In talking with her, she said that like any chick whose husband leaves (for whatever reason) it turned her life upside down. She didn’t know what she was supposed to do, she was scared, felt alone, abandoned, and hurt. She also said she felt like she mayb
Lastnight,my husband David and I had the privilege to speak to a class on sex, ethnicity, race, and gender at the School of Public Health for the State University of New York at Downstate (SUNY Downstate). We were invited by the professor of the class who is on the board of the organization where I work.
David and I were there to talk about our story and how we fell in love. The students were there to learn about gay relationships in a setting where they could ask questions without fear. One of the questions we were asked, which we possess been asked a lot by small kids, was:
”I understand that you are married, so which one of you is the husband and which one of you is the wife?”
Now it’s easy for a gay person to get offended by this question. David later admitted that he was offended saying, “why would someone even ask that, don’t they understand?” I reflect about it differently. I read an article recently that quoted RuPaul, a gay icon, who said, “The people who are mulling over certain words will have to question themselves, ‘Is that pos coming from a place of love, or comi
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Sometimes a woman may verb been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women include been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
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The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Understand If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their hold. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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