Married first time gay
Married Men&#;s Group Facilitator
Carl Marshall, the first facilitator of the Married Men’s Group, talks about the group and its history.
How did the group come about?
Well, in , I left my marriage of 20 years as I realised that I was gay. I was very distressed, disoriented, and in want of support, and a friend directed me towards ‘Healthy Gay Life’, the (then) local health provider for the gay community. HGL was helpful to me as a married man. It was distinct though that, as a group, some very specific support was needed. The manager who led the unit at that period recognised that I had group management skills and asked me to put up a group for men who were in relationships with women who were also attracted to men.
Why was there a need for a specific group for men in relationships with women?
Acknowledging your ‘gay’ side can be very difficult. Married and cohabiting men who are also attracted to guys have very specific issues. Firstly, in admitting to themselves that they contain male attractions. Secondly, the guilt of feeling that they have lied or made a mistake in getti
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A married man curious about sex with another man cheats on his wife and daughter &#;and who pays when his long-term sexual affair moves from the shadows into the light?
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A man’s libido &#; his sex drive &#; is sometimes tamed by age when his sexual experiences become numerous enough that he can look back and ask if he left anyone injured or damaged in his quest for sexual fulfillment.
Another observation &#; just as relevant &#; is how his sexual conduct reflects on his ideal of being a man.
What are the costs, and who pays, when a man who conducted himself as heterosexual into adulthood caves to his curiosity about sex with another man? Are both men complicit in a deception when the curious one is married and has an infant daughter? And who is to “blame” for the fallout when the deception comes out of the shadows into the light?
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