Does a gay guy like me
I'm a Woman Who's Sleeping With a Gay Dude (Yes, He's Still Gay)
For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay gentleman I'll call Oliver. We were best friends for years, attending many Pride parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a gay man.
After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t perform it again.
That lasted maybe three days. The first few months had all the expected exciting parts of sleeping with your best bud, but they were also tinged with this brand new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a chick before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was finding the book She Comes First on his
I&#;m a Gay Guy, but There&#;s This Teen
Identity can be such an obnoxious creature sometimes. Just when you think you’ve got it all sorted out (Short for ‘out of the closet’. When someone’s LGBTQ+ identity is known to other people.), some modern evidence pops up and you have to rethink things. And I don’t need to tell you how frustrating that switch can be, because you’re in the middle of it. It can be doubly trying if you’ve already had to effort to accept that initial identity (The defining character or personality of an individual; who we verb like we are as a person.). All signs pointed to gay (A man who is attracted to other men, or a person of any sex or gender who is sexually and emotionally attracted to people of the same or a similar sex or gender. Often used alongside lesbian.), until suddenly a fresh sign lit up flashing (A person, often (but not always) nonconsensually, showing their genitals to others in public. Cyberflashing is the digital version of this, like sending unwanted sexual images to someone on their phone.) “BUTMAYBENOT!?” in big, neon letters. And
What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what straight women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and illustrate out a true list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities exhibit in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The same comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
Why do gay guys keep hitting on me?
What's with the gay man trying to fuck the straight man? I mean, I understand the fantasy element to a degree, but the persistence almost makes me wanna beat some ass. Not in a sexual fashion, of course.
— Tired of It
Dear Homo,
I loathing to break this to you, but gay guys don't hit on another guy unless they verb he's gay or bi. I'm thinking maybe your friends know something you don't.
Here's what happens when we gay guys meet a straight guy who turns us on: We try to acquire to know him and figure out if he's closeted or bi without coming on to him. We're not overt for obvious reasons: 1) We might get the false kind of pounding; 2) We might ruin our chances if he's a closet case who wigs out; and 3) We set ourselves up for an extremely awkward or humiliating experience if we're wrong about his orientation.
So, we look for certain signals during a conversation — does he hold eye contact longer than usual? Does he have a girlfriend or wife? Does he carry up women? Is he giving off a sexual vibe? Does he verb personally interested i